Every couple goes through the amazing ‘honeymoon phase.’ Sometimes it’s during those first few months of dating. For others, it’s a bit more literal and happens after marriage. Regardless of when it happened for you and your spouse, it’s hard to deny the bliss that comes with the feeling of being completely, utterly head-over-heels in love with your partner. But after time, that intensity often cools. How do you get back to that more passionate place in your relationship?
The answer? A little bit of effort, every single day. Here are five ways that you can easily reignite that newlywed bliss—and keep the flames lit for years to come.
It’s not likely that your partner is exactly the same as he or she was years ago when you met. Instead of assuming that she still likes pinot noir or that he still loves acoustic rock, start paying attention to the details. Simply being tuned-in to your partner’s preferences will make you more attentive to their needs and wants.
2. Compliment freely:
Give your partner a compliment every single day. Not sure you can find something to comment on? Try harder. It can be something as simple as complimenting his new haircut, her ability to keep your bills organized, or his cooking skills. A sincere “Hey, you look really nice today” or “You handled that work situation really well” can signal to your partner that you’re tuned in and paying attention to them.
3. Get physical:
Remember the days when you couldn’t keep your hands off of each other? Get back to it! Start touching your partner throughout the day. And not just the perfunctory peck as you leave the house. Lay a major kiss on her on your way out—it will keep you both thinking about it throughout the day. Keep the connection alive by reminding one another that you’re not afraid of a little physical action.
4. Be spontaneous:
Turn on music while you’re cleaning up the kitchen together. Offer going on a walk to get ice cream after dinner. Or, what about picking up some flowers or scotch or a movie on the way home “just because”? These kinds of breaks from your routine can be easily added to your day and mean a lot to your partner–especially if you’re paying attention to the things that he or she really enjoys (see tip #1)!
5. Be a little vain:
If you think back to when you first started dating your partner, it’s likely that you focused a lot on your own appearance. There can be a lot of value in this—working out, eating well and maintaining some beauty habits can make you personally feel more attractive and healthy. In turn, research shows that you’re then more likely to be interested in sex and more satisfied with your life.
No matter what you focus on, remember it’s never too late to get back to the hot, steamy days of newlywed bliss! For more tips and suggestions on how to improve your relationship, download the all-new app called “How Did He Know,” available now in the iTunes App Store.