We’ve all heard expression that nice guys come last and that women like bad-boys. Here’s why.
If nice guys are lucky enough to get a date, they rarely get a second date and continually slip into the friend zone. Often ‘nice guys’ see that jerks are successful with women so they play games, don’t call when they say they will and treat women with disrespect. Of course this doesn’t work either so it becomes a matter of ‘dammed if you do, dammed if you don’t’ situation which can be confusing and frustrating.
The Nice Guy Defined
Nice guys are simply too agreeable. Whenever they’re out on a date with a woman, they’re always agreeing with everything she says. She may say, “I love eating raw eggs while hiking up a mountain.” or “I really want to take a skydiving holiday.” And even though the guy hates hiking and has acrophobia, he shouts “Me, too!”
Even though the nice guy is an agreeable person, he has no control over his life. He allows women to come into his life, he agrees with them on everything, and hopes and prays that these women will like him for being so agreeable. It’s so important for women to like him, so he’s Mr. Agreeable.
Mr. Agreeable never gets the girl. He never gets the second date after the first because he’s boring. What being so agreeable tells a woman is that he does not have enough self-respect to stand up for his own values. He doesn’t think enough of himself to own his identity, so he becomes accommodating, inoffensive and boring. He becomes the boring nice guy nobody wants to date because no-one wants to date themselves.
Nice guys never stand up for themselves, because that’s what nice guys do — they don’t believe they can get women. They’ve got this fear that they can’t get the woman they truly want, so they take whatever they can get. They literally beg their way into a relationship. And a woman knows that from there on, she basically has him by the balls.
Nice guys are beggars. Great guys are catches.
Women don’t really want the nice guy. They always say they want a nice guy, but what they really want is a great guy with values, principles and drive – who’s interesting and exciting. To move from the friend zone into the lover zone, become a great guy instead a nice guy.